We all have sex education stories. Even if that education came from friends, family members, movies/tv, songs, or the internet, instead of school. We might have... Puberty stories. First date stories. Coming out stories. The Talk stories. Me too stories. Identity stories. Sex ed stories are universal - they are the stories of our bodies, our relationships, our thoughts and feelings. And middle school is a time when many of these stories are first shared. A 6th grade student comes up to me after class. Miss, can I talk to you? Boys keep playing this game during lunch called Bangcock. I don't like getting punched in the testicles. A 7th grade student comes up to me after class. Miss, can I talk to you? I'm talking to a boy I met on Snapchat. I really like him. He's been picking me up from school - he's 18. He's texting me - you know - pictures - and now he wants to have sex. I'm not sure I'm ready. An 8th grade student comes up to me after class. Miss, can I talk to you? I'm gay but there's no way I can tell my parents. They would kill me. It goes against our religion. They will NOT understand. But I don't like keeping this secret. No personal stories shared in class during the sexual health unit. That's the agreement. But the stories come: During lunch. After class. After school. During the remote learning, in the chat. Can I talk to you? My mother has HIV, and I'm scared. Can I talk to you? One of my testicles is bigger than the other and I think I'm dying of cancer. Can I talk to you? My stepfather walked in on me having sex and he beat me. Here's the imprint of the belt buckle on my neck. Can I talk to you? A boy made me go into a closet with him during afterschool, and made me touch his penis. Can I talk to you? I think I'm pregnant. Can I talk to you? When I was 10, my uncle raped me. And so many, many more stories. When students share these stories, I often feel powerless, overwhelmed. There is value in listening, but...what next? I connect with my principal, the school counselor, the social worker, community groups, parents, and yes, call child services on occasion. And together we support students. This is Whole School Whole Community Whole Child In action. This happens because students shared their stories. These stories challenge me. They inspire me. They keep a fire going inside me. When teachers can talk to students about Puberty Anatomy Gender Attraction Relationships HIV Safety Boundaries Intimacy ...we open doors for students to tell their stories. We remove fear and shame, we give them language and space, so their voices can be heard. When we teach students skills... How to find help How to ask for help How to say no How to say yes How to advocate for themselves and others How to make healthy decisions How to set healthy goals Students can learn to take ownership of their stories. Health education works. So to all parents, students, teachers, administrators, community members - let's advocate. Do whatever it takes. To write a new story. And to make sure EVERY middle school student receives high-quality health education By Amy Dawson
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I needed this so much. I’m not sure if it will make a difference due to budget cuts but I need to share this poem with my admin.
7th grade health (no instruction of any kind for health K – 6) has been cut from a semester to a quarter. What do I cut? What isn’t important?
Thank you for this!!!
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So powerful. Thank you for sharing. And thank you to all of my fellow health educators.
WE MAKE A DIFFERENCE!
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